morning Tom, wow baby kitties huh? bet your D will have fun with them! how are you today? hugs
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Yea, both my D and my female retriever are fighting with the mama cat to be mommy to the kittens.
I doing pretty well. Still wrangling over if or when to start the legal stuff. I'm really thinking at this point I'll let her separate if she wants to and let her get a taste of what life is like without me. I still feel like she's using the house as a safety net and she's not really contributing financially to the family so much. She says she's going to buy the kids some winter clothes this week. Hope she follows through; but she's getting that car scot-free right now except for gas. I'm thinking it's time for her to start contributing for insurance and payments. I've already hinted that she will have to pay the property tax and registration on next month.
Remember.....whenever you talk to her about this stuff and she flips out....and she will.....tell her calmly that Tom is only doing what is best for his family and she is the one who wants the divorce. Whenever this stuff comes up between me and the W.....that is my standard answer!
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
Afternoon, MC! I don't recall hearing how the bar-b-que was???
The reality of what they are doing has to hit them sometime...maybe the insurance discussion is the time for that to hit for her. I'll hope for you that the discussion goes okay. And, I'd hold off on the papers...there's time later for that. I've heard over and over that you'll know when the time is right.
Hugs to you! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
Remember.....whenever you talk to her about this stuff and she flips out....and she will.....tell her calmly that Tom is only doing what is best for his family and she is the one who wants the divorce. Whenever this stuff comes up between me and the W.....that is my standard answer!
Ah yes, the "script" we live by. I believe I will be using this more and more as well.
Stay strong there Tom. And stay calm...
BTW, FWIW I agree with Amy - plenty of time for paperwork. BUT if you and your L feel there is something strategic, filing is not the same as actually having things be completed. PDT can tell you about that - he filed and stayed his D proceedings twice.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
{{{{Tom}}}}} Hi there..wow baby kitties..how cute..tho I'm sure you don't want one more thing to take care of LOL!!
I hope you are doing ok today!
Tawnya
yea, It's not like I don't already have 5 gaping mouths every time that I walk in the door; now there's 5 more. Fortuanately, mama kitty is taking care of that for the moment.
Afternoon, MC! I don't recall hearing how the bar-b-que was???
The reality of what they are doing has to hit them sometime...maybe the insurance discussion is the time for that to hit for her. I'll hope for you that the discussion goes okay. And, I'd hold off on the papers...there's time later for that. I've heard over and over that you'll know when the time is right.
Hugs to you! Amy
BBQ was awesome as always. I just never get my money's worth on buffets. the place is pricey but good. With tip, food, and drink; you're $14 dollars lighter and that's just lunch.
Remember.....whenever you talk to her about this stuff and she flips out....and she will.....tell her calmly that Tom is only doing what is best for his family and she is the one who wants the divorce. Whenever this stuff comes up between me and the W.....that is my standard answer!
Ah yes, the "script" we live by. I believe I will be using this more and more as well.
Stay strong there Tom. And stay calm...
BTW, FWIW I agree with Amy - plenty of time for paperwork. BUT if you and your L feel there is something strategic, filing is not the same as actually having things be completed. PDT can tell you about that - he filed and stayed his D proceedings twice.
there is time. But I tell you that the longer this goes on and the more ambivalent she becomes; I just feel like I want to walk. But then I read LE's post about his D and I cried. I don't want to experience my kids having to go through that. I think that's the bottom line.
