OMG it's sooo funny that you bring that up because while I was getting ready for work this morning the thought of when he was there crept into my head and I remembered how he would sit on the bed and watch me put my makeup on and I would ask "Don't you love me?" and he would always respond, "more than love, I adore you". It kinda made me smile a bit this morning thinking about that and how I can't wait to hear those words again!!
I think your goal is a great one and you can do it. Remember thinkn positive!! Do you still have the Rao book? Re-read it maybe it will give you some more inspiration to be more conscience of the things you say to H and how you handle what he says. And trust me you have been doing great lately, I'm not saying that you're not but just some added reinforcements might make everythings go even smoother an help speed the process along.