Yes, I am stubborn. Historically, I am ridiculously stubborn.
My husband and I are both hard-headed, which is why are kids are stubborn, too (remember D2 and her 90-minute bedtime extravaganza the other night?).
I am sure Woog will remember me dragging 3 full-size garbage cans down a 200-yard driveway with a broken foot in a brace every week last Feb/March just b/c H was gone to Iowa and I wanted to prove to him I didn't need anyone's help living alone...(even though we had a friend in town who could have done it in 5 minutes instead of the 30 it took me)
H most often gets upset with me for "being dumb" which = being stubborn: *At 7 1/2 months pregnant, I went out, bought a bed frame, put it together, carried in our queen box spring/mattress and put the bed together b/c H hadn't done it when I asked him to.
*I carried same box spring/mattress down the stairs into the garage last winter on prev. mentioned broken foot b/c H was gone to Iowa and I wanted, again, to show him "I can do this (life) myself!"
(He calls it being dumb b/c the things I do on my own often involve some physical risk, or are things I have never done before that he is capable of doing easily.)
I am probably a lot like the Australian Shepherd dog we had to give away last year...very smart, very stubborn, resistant to being told what to do...
Truth? Yes, I have historically been very stubborn. And neither of my parents EVER admitted they were wrong. Can't remember a single time in all my life. When they did something hurtful, they would just wait for it to blow over, act like nothing happened, move on...
In fact, with Dan, if I admitted I was wrong it was usually followed by a BUT. "You are right, I shouldn't have taken the kids to the fair when it was 105* and Sydney had pneumonia BUT I wanted to support you and your cows...." or "I know I shouldn't have unloaded all that feed without asking you where you wanted me to put it, BUT I was trying to help since your back was out..."
Get the idea?
Now, believe it or not, since the marital crisis of '07, I have been working on this. I still do it sometimes, but there are a LOT more times when I catch myself and say, "You know what, Iwas wrong, period. And I am sorry."
However, believing me would mean H would have to buy into the fact that we CAN change.....
