Thank you SPM and I do know what you mean. I have thought about how the conversation would go should she hit me with any of these senarios. When I have done this, I always envisioned staying calm, not crying and keeping in control. I have in my mind envisioned what life would be like alone. That does not scare me as much as how my children would be affected. They are the innocent bystander in this. Financially I will be ruined no doubt about that with her being a stay at home mom.

Regardless, I am still taking it hour by hour. W doesn't go to T until next week and my parents and brother are coming to visit next weekend also. W is coming back to our room while they are here,so that should be interesting. She says she is going to sleep on an air mattress on the floor. I told her if that is what she wants then okay.

Thanks again SPM, I have yet to keep a journal but maybe it is about time I started.


Married 10/12/2002
Me 35 Ring On
Her 29 Ring Off
D 4
S 2
Don't know if I am in love with you 10/7/08
Kinda Separated 10/7/08
EA/OM 6/6/08

my current thread: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1623276&page=1&fpart=4