Anytime she talks to you, (if you don't do this already) stop what you're doing, watch her & listen. Ask a question from her last sentence. Make noises like Hm, & really ? nod your head, & smile. You are showing her that you are now a safe person to talk to...Sometime later in the day/evening, just briefly mention that you enjoyed talking with her. .
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712