You ever had times when you question whether you quit to soon ? I think I'm having a few days like that, but it's not for her, it's for my boys.
I've had those, but it takes two to Tango and like my W, your W is more interested in doing her thing than saving the M. It is either hang in there and keep getting kicked in the gut hoping something will change, or moving forward for yourself, dropping the rope and leaving the window open for them. What do you do?
Seeing the emotional reactions of the children hurts us the most. My kids aren't comfortable talking to W about how much they hate all of this. They know how I feel and that they can talk to me. My D and your S's being so young they probably don't understand completly why this is happening. They just see it on their terms and you alluded that in an earlier post. S6 is mad because you left the house. He feels like you abandoned him. My D7 is going through the same thing. S2 who really knows what is going on there. Some issues for sure, but they are developing so quickly at that age that he might have fewer scars from all of this. At some point we have to accept we really did all we could and our W's didn't want to try again. Maybe down the road they will, but for now, we and the kids suffer.
Keep your chin up, like you've been doing! Better days are coming.
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A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
