chicki's 7th thread -latest drama

[Livin4ME]

I agree whole heartedly with what everyone has said. It is not OK for him to treat you this way. He does not respect you as a person. I've gone thru the same mess. He even was living with OW and cheating on her with me. His W!!! And I thought I was winning. But I was just causing myself more harm than good and he didn't care. He was getting sex. That's all that mattered to him. I was a sex toy to him.
My sister told me something several years ago that only recently makes sense. (weird cuz my sis was still a teenager when she told me this! and I'm older than her! lol) She said that she used to do everything she could to get a reaction out of me. She would call me names, pick on me, irritate me, you name it, she did it. And it would piss her off so bad because I never reacted the way she wanted me to. She wanted me to blow up at her. Cuz then she felt she had succeeded in what she was doing. But all I did was kill her with kindness. I was nice to her. I still did what I wanted to do, but I told her no in a nice way. And that pissed her off. She never got what she wanted. She never got that reaction she wanted. I just went on about my business like she wasn't even there. Drove her nuts!!!! But let me tell you when she left, I would go off about it to someone else!!!
I'm not saying do it just like that. Definitely state that what he is doing is not appropriate. Definitely follow up with a letter like the others have said. Not only to reconfirm what you have already said, because he is just thinking you're playing hard to get. But also because it gives you a paper trail. You need the paper trail in case anything is done later legally. But don't let him know he's getting to you. Do it after he leaves. He doesn't respect you. He will think he's winning if he sees a reaction.