All- I think the home earlier 180 is a must, and the new schedule you wrote out sounds like a good one. Be consistent and be on time. If you can't make it home one day at that time, call him and let him know. Being home on time shows consideration for H and will help build trust with him. He is clearly showing you with his words and actions that he wants appreciation from you. I HATE that he talks to you about OW, but looking from the outside it seems he is reaching out in a twisted way, almost childlike-"pay attention to me, love me, care about me, so I don't have to meet other women for dates." Just my opinion. Even his comments, "what's new", etc, show that he feels last on your list. I think this 180 is crucial to your marriage restoration.
That picture story had me cracking up! And, seeing you laugh and enjoy the joke was attractive. Double whammy!
My H isn't religious either, but I can see God working on his heart. We may have to be the ones to lead our men toward a more spiritual life, but at the right time. That will be a ways off.
Hope, you are right, I love rejoice ministries. I get their devotions every day. In fact I was thinking about your H's conversation with SIL so close to his good interaction with you at the meeting. In the Q&A section of their website. Bob answered a question about prodigal spouses' false starts home and likened it to a pendulum on a clock, the spouse comes in close and then the enemy pulls them back in the other direction. He's still under the influence of the enemy. But, bits of fog have lifted . . . BTW, I love the phone trick. That is awesome!
T2L -my pampering plans include nails tomorrow and a little shopping. I'm at my High school weight and I need some new duds!! H let another "honey" slip in our phone conversation this morning. Nice, but NO EXPECTATIONS. He emailed this morning and I haven't answered it yet.
Me:33, H:34 T10, M8 S4,S3,S9m ILYBINILWY 11/07 Separation 1 2/08-8/08 Back Home 8/08-10/08 Separation 2 10/08- Too many bombs to count:(
