H is absoLUTEly paralyzed by negative thinking. He is very glass-half empty. His oldest sister actually called him a "fun sponge" a couple weeks ago, saying he sucked the fun out of everything he was involved with...naturally he is now not speaking to her.
He does not feel/think/believe whatever that we CAN be happy again. To admit that we could, would mean he would have to change almost EVERYTHING he has been telling himself for the past year(s)...That is why I pointed out things like our trip to Mexico. He is force to take another look and admit that we have had LOTS of good, even GREAT, times in the past 16 1/2 years
it would also mean that Dan would have to admit he's wrong and I bet Dan would have a really hard time with that..
