jersting in surviving

[jersting]

Ok I haven't posted in a while and had some crazy things going through my mind. I have met a great person and we are crazy about each other. I spend every minute I can with her and she seems to want to spend every minute with me. I was not looking for any kind of relationship, she just kinda popped into my life. We have the normal struggles with the X and my kids as far as the kids get jealous of her kids and they seem like they get a little affraid of me spending too much time with her. Both of them have lashed out a bit and the new person in my life doesn't seem to deal with it too well. We have had a couple talks about each of them. When my daughter done it my friend made a huge deal about it but then it subsided and now her and my daughter seem to get along great. My son now has said a couple of mean things to her and she is really upset with me about it. I tried to explain to her that he is only 10 and just trying to figure out what he can and can't get away with her. She seemed to be really upset with me for saying that. I am really enjoying this new person in my life but some times I am affraid that she is not enjoying me as much. Is this feeling coming from what I used to deal with and am I reading more into it than I should? On another note, sometimes when I get these feelings from her I feel like saying heck with it and just going back to talking to the X from time to time. My emotions can sometime get the best of me and I know that the road with the X sucked and will continue to stink if I go down it anymore. I don't have the feelings toward my X that I used to have but I sometimes wonder if the drama the new one adds to my life is worth it either. Is there anyone out here that can give me a little advise on dealing with the X when you are in a new relationship?