Trying2Live-Post #3

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Hope,
Ok don't be moved by this if you can. My H cussed out his brother, screamed at him at the top of his lungs and said he never wanted to talk to him again and hung up on him. This happened about 3 months in this crazy crap, so its all pretty text book. And remember NO EXPECTATIONS! This keeps you from getting so discouraged and hurt. If you expect anything it should only be insanity and lack of normal common sense. I would tell you in-laws, though they mean well, to stop any type of reasoning. This will only back fire, and push H away further. Remember "stop the chase" this includes family and I say it with the most love. I don't want it to further damage what you want to really happen in your marriage. The detachment needs to happen with the in laws just a bit too. They can no more reason with him as you can. All common sense goes out the window.

Its fog talk remember. Of course he is not going to discuss anything and really be kinda glad because it will be the fog talk of justification and re-written marital history to make what he is doing okay and deep down inside he knows its wrong.

IT takes a while for even the littlest of the fog to lift, and even if it does they go right back into it pretty quickly.

Stay focused on you right now, continue on GAL'ing and find every area of 180'ing that you can. If any of us neglect this there is no way we can make it the long haul, and its gonna be a bit girls, so your GAL is going to help and take some time to pamper. Who has pampered themselves? Everyone take some time to do that, get a massage, manicure or pedicure, new hair do, but a new more form fitting top and jeans for that great new bod ya'll got! I did, lost the weight too and am loving it and will never gain it back! Going to lost about 7 more. Use this time while you wait for the fog to lift to get in shape and peruse that size you always wanted to be an put off.

Did any one else have a chance to get the book Surviving An Affair by Willard Harley?