Thanks peace and NA- It has been a pretty good week with my H...maybe that is because we haven't seen much of each other...ha! We went to the party on Saturday and we had a great time. I was busy on Sunday and Monday so I didn't see him. Tuesday I kind of got into a funk about things so I sent him a text to ask if he would call me. He did call but didn't really want to hear me talk about my frustrations with us because he was stressed out about work. We compromised...he vented a little and I told him a little of what I was feeling. It was good that we were able to hear each other.
My H has been trying to figure out how to coordinate things this weekend for his business trip. He invited me to go with him...and I have been a little skiddish about it since he has retracted previous invitations. Yesterday H was trying to figure out how to get where he need to be when he need to be there but I didn't fit easily into the picture. He and I went around and around about how work things out...I finally told my H that he should just go but he didn't want to do that either. Finally he came up with a plan that seemed to work for both of us and booked it. At one point, my H said our inability to figure things out was bringing back his issues of things being laborious (his word) in our relationship. I think he felt better when we got things figured out and when I gave him kudos for coming up with a good solution. I hope it will be a nice weekend.
We had C last night and I brought up that my H had talked about moving out of his apartment by the end of the year and if things don't work out with us, he will buy a condo. During the session, my H made some other comment about "if" thing work out with us. The C had to laugh at my H because he said he is the master at minimalization. My H talked about his fear of coming home and then he would be responsible for my happiness. He wants to maintain some of his autonomy...and he fears me becoming too emotionally dependent on him. I have heard this before...but how are we going to know if things have changed if we don't try things again. I hope we are getting closer giving things a try.
Last night he said again that he wouldn't be going to C if he didn't want the M to work.
He came over after C and spent a little time with me and the kids.
So, today I am enjoying more positive movement. It is hard not to have expectations that it will continue...but I am trying.
