"H said he had a busy week next week...not sure what is going on??"
That is exactly what he wants you to wonder about. It's a mind game. He knows you well worry about it. It sound like a little DBing on his part weather he knows about DB or not. Do not let it lead you off course. Keep a clear eye and mind. You are doing really well.
"One thing is still bothersome...he made a comment..."she's a nice girl" but I don't know that I would date her...or something to that affect...the nice girl thing....threw me for a loop...what does that mean???"
Once again he is jerking your chain. He is testing you. He wants to see if you have really made the changes. You need to put this comment out of your mind. Do not dwell on it. Your mind will come up with all kinds of scenarios, which will be all bad. Once you get them in your head the emotions are intensified. Keep a positive mind-set.
"When the C recommended us going on a couple of dates and he said "that sounds like work to me"...I was like, this is going to take work...it's not going to just happen. I know it's only the second session after a 20 month hiatus...and I am expecting things to be more improved,"
Remember you are the one that wants this counseling. You had to persuade H to participate. Part of him wants to work things out, but his pride is getting in his way. He is still fighting his emotions just like you are. Two sessions is just the start. It will be a lot more down the road. This exercise is important to go through and with him resisting will take a little longer. Once he gets his mind around this idea it will go faster, but he has to get use to the idea. Be patient, be cool, and do not give up.
Both of you need to work on this together. Get it behind you. You do not want the same thing happen again in a few months or years.
"just needed 2 vent a little...just being the nice girl that I am!!! LOL"
There is nothing wrong with venting here and there certainly nothing wrong with being a NICE GIRL.
Keep up the good work. Stay strong and clear headed. You can do it.
Keep your eye on the Green.
((VS))
P.S.
My W is coming home for at least two days. I am working on my sitch. I may not get a chance to get back to you, but know that I am here for you.
