Red, you said stop worrying about what he wants and figure out what I want. Well, I want to LIVE! I know all about GAL, find my own happy, etc. But hard to act "as if" I am getting a D when H lives with me, we hang out witht he kids, watch TV, etc.
I As long as H and I are around each other that much, there is a part of me that will try to think he will change his mind.
I guess I would rather cut the cord now, and MAYBE be surprised down the road IF he came back and I wanted him back;
than to keep doing the dance we are in now, where he is "here" but not "here", and then he leaves at some moment where I have started to feel hope........
So am I crazy?
You are definitely NOT crazy! It sucks w/ them in the house & acting like nothing's wrong but you know there obviously is, but still wonder what they're thinking and what they are going to end up doing -- either leaving or staying.
I didn't necessarily mean GAL etc. as far as what you want, I meant you need to decide if you want to stay or go and then act accordingly. I know still trying to act like nothing is wrong in hopes of him either already wanting to stay or maybe deciding to stay really sucks, so you are going to need to decide whether or not to put your foot down and say GO or not. Do you WANT him right now? Do you think if he stays & you guys act like a family he is going to go back to "normal?" Or do you think he needs a taste of reality by moving out etc.?
That's what I meant by deciding what you want. Do you want to continue living the way you are or are you going to tell him "ENOUGH?"
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
