The truth is always better than what you think people want to hear.
I applaud you for trying and being fair and honest in your approach toward your spouse and relationship. And being honest with yourself.
Walls are built bit by bit by hurt and reinforced by anger. A foundation for a relationship, marriage evolve from trust to love. The trust allows love and security to develop. With each positive action you two take a little bit of the wall erodes. Being honest about how you feel frees you (and him) from guessing.
