Chazz, I wish I had an answer for you on that one. I have a reputation around here for being a real cynic, I prefer realist, but with that being said, I believe this; God puts us here and gives us a brain with the ability to make choices. Unfortunately some of those choices are wrong and they can hurt a lot of people. We only have control over one person, ourselves. Chazz, what you have to do is make the best choices for yourself and try to re-build from the past, it can be done, it will take a lot of work. I always say that its the hard things that define who we are, everybody is great when things are going good, its when things get hard is when we find out what kind of character we have.