Hey Jeff... advice I have heard on these things is, you can only really talk about yourself, your feelings and how you see it. So, (sorry beginnersmind!).. I dont thikn you could say "We have not been happy in this marriage for a long time".

I'd express concern for her though, if you dont think she may be happy/fulfilled and that you would like her to talk to you about that, as she is your W of over 20 years and you have raised 4 sons!?

Its tricky, as you have already gone to Retrovaille and ended up back here again. Whose idea was it to go to that by the way?

Ali x


Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs
IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08
Reconciled 05/09 now married!
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