Hi Alliistah- Sounds like you're making some strides with DB already- keep it up! It's really a plus in your sitch that she is still living in the house, and sleeping in bed even. That's great compared to many here on the boards. Here's a thought, is there a 2 player game you and W could play once in a while? (playstation, xbox?) It may even be all 'talk' if she hasn't left yet. Definitely keep doing what has been working for you, it will develop.
DBer since 2003 D - 3/24/09 GAL and DBing for myself