I guess it's over

[Loving_Life]

Hey Trixi-

Hugs and I hope the biopsy turns out ok! Sending some PMA your way.

He said that H told him "I still in love with her; but I'm confused. I have no idea what I am doing."

WOW! I would say there is still some hope there if you draw back from him and he sees or hears of you chatting w. a new man (even xbf if you want)That is some serious emotion that he readily feels and admits. It shows that he deeply cares about you- however he thinks he 'has' you already so he doesn't need to do anything, it's old hat to him- He is cake eating.

Ok- so go back to DB. Reread the 'Act as if' part. If he sees a big chance of losing you, he may turn around to fight for you and feel like he wants the commitment on his own(Hey that's MY woman! What's that other guy doing- where is she going?). Like DB says- stop talking about your R completely, act like you you're moving on. Don't talk to him much anymore(papers don't have to be filed to do this- unless you want to). Don't answer his calls or emails or texts, IMs very often at all anymore - only like once a week. There's a good chance he will start asking and wondering what you're up to if you can do this. Start chatting with these new guys, start doing other new things that you want to do- and casually let him know something about your new friend x or that sorry you're busy, you've got 'an event' that night- when you do talk to him. Don't share your whole life w. him anymore- be vague and mysterious. What do you like to do to have fun? What are your top 5 favorite things, places, etc? You can do this!!