BeingMe, thanks for posting, I know what you me about um/ah her, at the end of the day it is jack all to do with her, she trashed mine and my sons life and expects help from me, I will do as I please whatever her texts and calls say, like I said I feel the ball is back in my court now, and it hasnt been that way for three and half years, let them squirm and struggle, I dont think it should be me that feels sorry for them