Busy with work here, too, but always keep track of you.
A few reminders. Anyone talking to you at this point just wants the pain to go away for you, so they will tell you to "let her go". Staying and fighting right now is not easy and it is painful and most wouldn't do it. Anyone would understand if you let go. And, divorced people, except for the ones on here, almost always will say to "move on". Not to mention that you could wait and do all you can and she still may follow through on the divorce. So, no wonder you are feeling the way you are.
I'm so sorry for your pain. I wish I could come and give you a big hug and tell you it will all go away. Your wife's choices are hers only. Your choices are yours.
I was so close to leaving my marriage. I'm so glad I didn't. I thank God that I didn't. I see things clearly now, and I didn't before. That far away look is her thinking as well.....right now, though, my guess is it is her depression....her thinking more along the lines of "woe is me, what happened to my life, ...my poor kids." She just doesn't know.
Waiting and hoping and doing things for W is not helping you anymore. My advice to you is to focus only on you for a few months. Don't answer her calls, let her get voicemail. If it is about the kids and it can't wait then email and keep it only about the kids. Let her feel her choice. That means keep the kids schedule set as well and don't let her come over and see them during your time. Meanwhile you work on yourself. One thing I have learned over and over is that you can't rely on someone else to make you happy...YOU have to make yourself happy. Please don't go out with new girls.
And, let me just say you are totally off base if you think you will end up alone. You are a very attractive man and you have a very kind heart. Any lady would be lucky to have you. If anything, the abc girls should have shown you that if you divorce you will have no problem finding a lucky lady. Focus on you. I know you are lonely, but you love your wife and being with someone else right now would not be fair to them anyway.
