I think you did a good job as well. I'm sure it was not easy.
It sure does seem like her father is also too much involved. Ofcourse he wants the best for his daughter & doesn't understand she needs to figure that out for herself. One baby step I see is the good connection between your W & mother.
Guess, I didn't think you could bring people/family along to your hearing.
Just give her some time & keep your chin up.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)