Before w went on her trip I rarely heard from her during the day. Can't recall last time she had kids call me at work to say hi.
Today at 10 I get a call from S4 saying hi. He was trying out w new blue tooth. Chatted for couple mins, then D2 gets on to talk as well. She hangs up phone. Oh well, go on with my day - no calling back.
3:00 - Another call from w. Kids went to park & went through sprinklers - got wet. Need to get another set of clothes from house & asking if that is ok. Told her ok with me - this is the reason I gave you back the key to the house. W then asks if she can have 1 bathing suit for each kid - no problem, take a towel for each as well. D2 was sleeping & S4 wanted something to eat. I tell her have string cheese in fridge & granola bars if he wants one - feel free.
W then asks what I wanted her to do with kids tomorrow night. Did I expect her to bring kids back at night & put them to bed? I said no, you can do whatever you wanted. If you want to keep them at house for part of the day that would be fine - your decision what you want to do. She said it was hard to have kids over her cousins since her cousin's kids have homework & have to get up for school. Told her I understood. Asked if she was going to sleep with kids at her gm tonight then - she said yes. Told her I would be home after IC & had to stop to get gas on way home so should be there at 6:30. She tells me she went by Sam's Club & price dropped to $3.79. Thank her for the info, said I had to get back to work & bye.
2 mins later phone call from w - she says she doesn't know how to put this but the big picture frame for D2 she had removed from hanging over her bed due to it not being stable. I said you mean if there was an earthquake it would fall off the wall & crush her? I hung it up so kids wouldn't damage it & was planning on securing it better. Thanks for reminding me about that. She then says that S4 shirt & shorts are in D2's dresser. Can hear her opening & closing drawers. Then D9's capri pants are in S4's dresser. I say I am doing my best. She says she knows. I laugh & say anytime you want to fix my mistakes be my guest. Get a laugh out of her as well. Cya tonight at 6:30 - back to work & bye.
Didn't mention coming to IC since I already knew that wasn't going to happen. W actually criticized me about picture & clothes & never did I feel any anger for it! That is a major improvement in my mental well being. In the past I would felt I had to defend myself for making a mistake - now I am just laughing at it since it really isn't a major deal.
I still can see my w was hesitant to point out the picture thing figuring she was going to get the same old response. But more actions like today will hopefully start to erode those old expectations of hers.
Me/W 39/37 T/M 9/6 S 4, D 2 Bomb 7/17/08 OM confirmed 7/23/08 D Filed 7/25/08 D served 9/17/08