Hope, you nailed it at the meeting! Such a confident, nonchallant response to the soda can offering and continuing to act as if for the rest of the meeting! Way to go! H was clearly curious about you after the meeting, too. Wonder if he was thinking about the porch light comment . . .
T2L, thank you so much for your advice about being myself this afternoon. H called on his way to pick up the kids and I let it go to voicemail. That was tough!! Our conversations are pretty pleasant, so it was hard not to pick up the phone but I'm glad I didn't. When he got home with the kids, I was cheerful, smiling, and looking good. I looked him in the eye a lot more. We joked around while we played with the kids, he even called me honey. I kept talking like I didn't notice.
Then he starts talking about his doctoral presentation for Friday. I told him, smiling, that I was really proud of him and his research. My eyes got a little misty so I got something out of the cabinet then turned around again. I said this is such a big deal and congratulations. He said "I couldn't have done it without you and the boys".
H was supposed to meet his brother tonight to celebrate brother's bday. On his way down to meet him (about 40 min drive) his brother called and said he forgot he had to cancel. So H called, "just wanted you to know my plans had changed." He decided to go back to the base and work on his presentation for Friday. Then he said,"was that moist eyes I saw in the kitchen? What was that about (jokingly)" I said I have a sinus infection, everything in my head is moist. He laughed. I said I thought his acheivement was really great and I was proud of all his work. He said thanks and he would call me later.
I think I'm going to write down some GAL and distancing goals for the rest of this week, so that I don't start to give him puppy eyes. BTW, T2L, H is army reserves, so he doesn't really hang with that crowd. He ended up with a room in visiting officers quarters b/c he gets deployed in Dec to Iraq and so couldn't do a lease anywhere before he left. I think it's been a blessing in disguise b/c I think if he had an apartment again, he would be there a lot more than here.
I agree with you and Hope about the next time he asks are we ok. I always laugh a little, but I'll say yeah why do you ask and walk away.
Me:33, H:34 T10, M8 S4,S3,S9m ILYBINILWY 11/07 Separation 1 2/08-8/08 Back Home 8/08-10/08 Separation 2 10/08- Too many bombs to count:(
