I guess it's over

[Trixi]

Oh, I don't *really* want to go and find anyone else, but I can see where it might get ONE of us (H or myself) to finally make a decision.

You've read the "MLC For Dummies" post, right? Right at the end it says that as the MLCer you shouldn't file and you should make the LBS do it so that you can be the "victim". Sometimes I feel like he is trying to make ME be the one to file, but I do not want to file. I still love him. I still see great potential for us. When he tosses out hopeful comments (like "this house will be a great rental") it is very hard for me to throw in the towel to swim out into the great abyss of the unknown.

With regard to the risk of hurt feelings to new BF-- that is why my friend stated clearly, up front, that she still had feelings for her exBF. And the new guy liked her enough to hang out to see what happened.

But yes,I agree, ideally it is best to simply move on from the other person without adding in a third party.