Reconciliation has always been my hope and my goal in this, and what the Good Lord expects of us. But it matters not what I want -- given the person my W has become and continues to devolve into, Reconciliation with her has become impossible and unsustainable. The alien has won.
NCB,
I understand where your heart is... You would have preferred your M and family be intact... I have been there....
But, I feel those who subscribe to the "alien" mantra on this web site are just in denial.... Unhealthy denial.... The actions you see are who your spouse really is.... No one is forcing them to do what they do.... They are exercising their God given free will... They had the potential, desire and ability to ruin their M all along.....
The thing to ponder is why do many people go through a horrible crisis AND allow their H/W to help them..... While, others "act out" and destroy their M... To me, it is all in who they really are at their core....
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
