Hi, went to my meeting -- H comes in and sits next to me. H always carries soda around with him and usually we share it. H passes the soda to me and I take a sip. Felt like old days for a second.
I was stretching my arm out and H says are you ok and I say "sweetly" I think I really pulled my arm in Yoga today.
We talked about work and then he asks about D15. I said she is home sick today again. H asks should I go see her. And I said "Im sorry she specifically asked that you not come over." H actually winced but I was not going to sugar coat it (truth dart)
Then he tells me he is working Sat. on project, I tell him if you need any help (my area of expertise) let me know. H said thanks I appreciate it, then I mention -- I will not be available after 10 am because me and D are going to hairdressers, salon because she has Homecoming on Sat. night. (he never remembers what her schedule is), H says nothing but I know he is hurting because these events are important. D has already told me that she does not want her father there. I am not forcing her, but I will give a picture to H. Pretty sad.

How does H look -- face is bloated (drinking), and he has put on some serious weight (drinking and junk food).

After the meeting I engage in conversation with a co-worker and H is kinda standing there, then says to me I have to use the bathroom upstairs. I say bye, and continue talking to coworker and we are leaving and H comes back down and I just keep walking...

Now as for the notice on OW office...I just find out she has been out 3 days (sick? more plastic surgery? whatever?), so I hope no one removes the notice before she comes back)

T2L, I hope when you both meet with the friend on Sunday that H might be more receptive to listening what he has to say.
A couple of questions -- when your friend had his A how long before he tried to reconcile with wife? Also is he remarried now to OW? Just wondering how long it took before he realized his mistakes

Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09