I guess it's over

[AliSuddenly]

Well, its one way of doing it, its a coping mechanism and some people do that and manage to move on that way. I've done it when I was younger, but I wouldnt want to now. I think its been better to be on my own and get to know myself and grow, its been painful and I would have felt a million times better had I gone out and got a bf.. but I wouldnt have learnt what I've learnt.

I'm not sure Trixi, you were ML with your H just recently and you have been wrestling with filing. I personally dont think dating is a good idea until you feel clearly done with someone, else you risk hurting any new bf, or yourself, when the old feelings creep in?

On the other hand, like I said, some find it a good coping mechanism, depends what kind of person you are I guess !?

Ali x