Hey, SirPrize, You really are a prize! Thank you for posting on my thread, I really appreciate your sharing your thoughtful opinions! You (along with all the other kind DBers) have helped me get a better perspective on my sitch.
It sounds like you would really benefit from the "wholeness" aspect of yoga if you can find an instructor who isn't too far "out there." Look for an instructor in the "Iyengar" style of yoga (although there's no guarantee that that teacher will be more to your taste). I hope you find a yoga buddy if you think that will help--you will probably need to concentrate on the women of your acquaintance, as I see a lot more women in yoga classes than men. I think sometimes men think yoga is too wimpy, not challenging enough. If they do, then they have obviously never tried it! I've been a gymnast since the age of 9, and am one of the most flexible people I know, and I still have trouble with some of the poses! (Too much muscle in my thighs to make it geometrically possible, in some cases.)
About your M sitch...I am sorry to hear that D is proceeding, but it sounds to me like you have nevertheless taken the higher path and been the better man despite what she has put you through, and you are starting to see certain things improve because of it.
I, too, wouldn't be surprised if she eventually wants to come back to you. Then it is your choice...obviously a difficult one, because it is not just a matter of feelings, but a question of what is best for all concerned. I think your best bet now may be to shut the door, but not lock it. One of the things that we all know to our bones by now is that feelings change, so you can't make wise long-term decisions based on your emotions of the moment. I know I certainly don't feel romantic toward my H these days (I really don't even like him right now), but I can imagine a scenario in which that might be different in the future. I think of those feelings as being in long-term storage...sort of like off-season clothing.
You seem to be doing so well in sailing above the turbulence, taking the honorable path. I really admire the character you have demonstrated throughout all this, and you can be proud of yourself for doing the right thing. We can't control the other person or the results, only ourselves, and you have done that so well.
I hope things continue to improve for you, SirPrize! I will keep tabs on you, and I hope you will drop by and post to my thread sometimes--I really appreciate getting your take on things! Hope you find something fun to do for yourself today!
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
Thank you for posting on my thread, I really appreciate your sharing your thoughtful opinions! You (along with all the other kind DBers) have helped me get a better perspective on my sitch.
