I just had to jump into this thread as soon as I saw the title and read the references to the "new me" in you two. I picked that name when I joined the board, not wanting to be labeled with pain or despair, but with hope and positiveness. W and I went through MC for a year off and on, before the bomb. I, like most, was devastated by the bomb. I then found this board, booked a DB coach, and then started some 180s and GALing.
I have my bad days too, and there's always a chance of the other shoe dropping (W is still here), but I still hold out hope. Similar to what DQ said, I am grateful for my spouse's wake-up call - for it has changed me in many ways and will make a better and more aware life for me going forward.
Here's to you two, me and all the other New Me's out there. It ain't easy, or pain-free, but there can be some positive outcomes from all the chaos we are going through together.
