Hi K....you really ARE a new person since you began this journey....sounds like you are doing very well.
I hate to say this because it still hurts me, but I have also changed drastically as a person since my divorce...and I wish my ex-h could know the "new me". Not because I want a R with him at all...we have both moved on...but more because, the person I was when I was with him was damaged and therefore, she was damaging to him and to our marriage. But the person I am now, is so much lighter, sweeter, nicer, forgiving, understanding....and I just wish he could know "me" as I am now. I feel like he was robbed of ever knowing his wife....because who I was back then is not the real me.
However...to look at it in a positive light....it took my divorce to get me to the place I am now and I would not be this better person if I had not gone through with the D. So for this reason, my own D was a necessary evil.....it caused growth I could not have attained in any other way.
