Are your L's able to obtain financial info from stbxh that will document his spending on vacations, gifts, and other non-essentials?
I don't know. She's getting his credit card & bank statements for the past year and he's put everything on credit card, almost half of our bills I think and a new bathtub, etc. When he went on vacation he would use card for gas and that's it so probably paid $$$ for the hotels or used OW's card and he reimbursed her or something like that b/c she's already divorced.
My L was thinking he might have a secret account somewhere, but honestly I think he's spent extra money on hotel rooms, vacations, dinner out and that kind of stuff and we also have double bills now that he's moved out. I don't think he's really limited his spending at all, just told me a couple times I would be totally broke after the D and he would have a lot more money. But with all the credit card expenses I don't see how that can be true! I think he's a little delusional.
I know he is also in denial about our kids. They're autistic spectrum and dyslexic and he says my homeschooling should have cured them by now so they should be fine in public school (at this point you can't cure those and homeschooling is a good schooling method but no magical cures). My S14 was in 2 years of a nice private school with only 10 kids in it, and I wound up homeschooling him after school b/c he couldn't learn for some reason and crying/sick all the time too, so eventually just did it full-time.
I just emailed H asking him to have the kids as late as possible Saturday so I can be a ghost at the Haunted theatre tour again. They're going to have ghostrackers and everything. He picks them up Fri. night and drops them off Saturday. He says he can only have them until around 9 (guess he's got a hot date). I can't believe this guy is asking for primary custody--like he has time!!! Karen
