Wow, JWS, I feel really honored to be on that list. If I made a list of my own like that right now, you would definitely be on it as well.
I think giving an ultimatum to your W at this point is a good thing. It’s what, the last LTR? You are ready to move on without her, so she has some big steps to take, or not. Either way, you’re at a good place, and you worked your a— off to get there. NO ONE can take the strength you have now away from you.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb