I know everyone has to set their own time lines for what they can handle, but I really think if you went lights out on him and wasn't available for him to vent with, talk to all the time, you may see some progress. It will take time and consistency.
I know you have been through the wringer more times than anyone should, so I am with you Corey. I just think you need to be really committed to being dark for the next few weeks especially.
hugs,kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory