Tell yourself that every hour if you need to and keep thinking of those beautiful children.
For me the worst part of the day is from 2 -4 in the afternoon. That is when the kids are napping and W has the time to talk all she wants to whomever she wants. That is how she got into to EA with OM int he first place. I am very anxious during those hours and I continually need to convince myself of PMA.
Luckily I think I am finally starting to detach. I have been reading DR and it helps. I wish so bad I could give it to her and show her how easy it could be for us to work on the M. But I know that is not the answer and I keep it hidden away. Will this ever end????? I can't believe there are members who have been trying and dealing with this for years. I don't know if I have it in me so that is why I take it day to day.
Good luck with the PMA and make sure you take time for you.
Married 10/12/2002 Me 35 Ring On Her 29 Ring Off D 4 S 2 Don't know if I am in love with you 10/7/08 Kinda Separated 10/7/08 EA/OM 6/6/08
my current thread: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1623276&page=1&fpart=4
Jack, thank you for taking the time to help all of us newbies. As you know we are in a lost world that sometimes needs to be brought back to reality for us. I personally have gotten much hope from all of you seasoned members just by reading what you have said in the past. Thanks again
Keep it up trapt, you can do this!!
Married 10/12/2002 Me 35 Ring On Her 29 Ring Off D 4 S 2 Don't know if I am in love with you 10/7/08 Kinda Separated 10/7/08 EA/OM 6/6/08
my current thread: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1623276&page=1&fpart=4
Been thinking about ya. Yes, it will end someday and we will both be fine. For this I am sure. 20 Months, I shouldn't be counting. Don't make the mistake I make at times. trying to figure out what stage and how much longer. We will never know.
I am very happy for you Jack. I dream of her coming back someday, however this has changed me for the better in ways I could never imagine no matter what happens.