Trying2Live-Post #3

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Well H was supposed to come over last Sunday but he canceled. kids were disappointed but chose not to allow it to bother me, used the time to not have to be perfect LOL and take a much needed nap! Was was actually with us most of Saturday, he came to sons game, took us to lunch said he wanted to come over for a little. Did a few home chores and then told me he would be leaving in an hour. I looked at him puzzled like why are you telling me this< acted like wasn't worried, he said well I just didn't want you to think I was staying late, said no problem cheerfully and kept watching the movie I put in. well he never left until 10PM. wE think that he got busted by the OW so she wouldn't let him come.

He got kinda irritated since kids were disappointed, so since I'm in Plan A(SAA book) I disregarded his responses and sent him an email in the morning telling him I was glad he go rest and he had looked really tired. I also included all the plans the kids and I had for the week asking him if he was coming.

So he will be here tomorrow for pumpkin carving and dinner. He will be here Friday night for trick or treating and dinner, he will be going to sons game Saturday at 3 pm and I'm sure we'll be hanging out, and he will be taking son to football weigh-ins Sunday morning and then after we will be meeting for lunch with a friend from church. Can you say Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday. BUT STILL I HAVE NO EXPECTATIONS! I really don't. It protects me and its wisdom. Either way I will be doing these things. And I asked him to take a Saturday off and he did so on the 8th we'll hang out for sons game and then do a day trip with the kids.
Yes the OW is in the picture, yes he is living with her, I am in Plan A of surviving an affair, I have no expectations from fog man at all, I still GAL, and try to 180 anytime there is interaction. But remember I had hardly NO contact with this man for about 5 months only if very very necessary or in response to his nasty emails other wise, I never called, texted, or chased in any way shape or form. At times he would text goodnight and I responded once and then never again. It wasn't until I got the SAA book and hit the end of the 5th month did I resume contact with him. Now I don't know if this is the way everyone should go, but I had 3 coaching sessions with Jody who is great by the way and the 1st thing she said is to reduce negative emotions and limit ALL contact so I followed her advice.
We'll see how it goes, doesn't matter I HAVE NO EXPECTATIONS LOL