If it's easier on you to have him there (especially because of the Halloween thing for the kids), and you can somehow curtail your expectations then just GAL while he's in the house like in the beginning.
As Kalni pointed out though, you've already been through all this and now he's getting time with the kids, family time, a roof over his head, his parents approval and absolutely NO Pressure to "Do Work" on your M. Just how he likes it.
Personally, every time he went to sleep on the couch would be like a new stab in my heart. I'm pretty emotional though. I'm not sure how I'd be able to keep up the pma, but I didn't have to. We were separated (for work) before my H turned into a cheating, lying,(etc. etc.) mess so I had a lot of advantages from my POV. He had to convince me to come to him. Of course, you've BTDT too..........
Hmmm, the lawyer and your actions may have been the wake up call? I guess, since HE said "we need to talk", you may as well hear what he has to say. No expectations sweetie. I know he's going to figure out he made the biggest mistake of his life if he goes down this path, but I'm not convinced he's figured it out this quickly.
How's that for no help at all! ((((BobbiJo))) still with ya fwiw.
