[/quote] i think also, that we can help balance the power a little more by not being so available. detaching a tad. more gal. when i start to do this, wife steps ups and acts like i wish she would. but its kind of vicious circle. she draws me back, which causes me to be more available, i stop gal, she backs off my resentment sets in yada yada. but, these instances are becoming fewer as time goes on. i think yours will too. but i really think the key is to get on with YOUR life. the power 5hing will sort itself out. saffie gives great advice. just adding my two cents. daybyday [quote]
wow this is where I am to the tee!!!
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
