Trying2Live-Post #3

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Hello Hope,
How are you doing today? I'm hoping you forgave yourself quickly and are ready to go again. Yesterday is gone so none of us need to drag it along with us all day, month or week long. Ok so ready everyone, cast of yesterday{{thud}} ahhhhh feels so much better doesn't it. The bible says that God gives us new mercies every morning and we have grace available to us everyday, so just know, that no matter what mistakes we made yesterday God loves us unconditionally and is pleased with us and we don't need to be perfect or work for that love from Him, its the free gift of God through Christ. Ok there's your devotional for today LOL.

I really say that because you can't look to the future with focus while looking at the past. Your focus needs to be in 1 direction.

So hope, I like the conflict of interest thing! Whoot Whoot!

I'm really impressed with your ability to continue with your yoga and weight lifting, say this with me everyone, weight lifting is our friend LOL. You didn't allow the circumstance to stop you and that's impressive. You go girl 30 pounds-very nice keep up the good work that's a huge accomplishment!

Ok lets get to work. Yes H is in the FOG. They all are. Print this out and put it in your bathroom and look at it until you fully expect fog talk and reasoning and are able to brush it off. You see what helps me is I DO NOT EXPECT anything from H so I don't get as upset and its like water off a ducks back. Its like expecting a dog to meow or a cat to bark, that would be insane right, well it kinda is to have expectations from our H while in the fog. This fog takes a bit to lift. So do your self a favor(everyone) and don't have expectations. You will be the only ones getting let down.
So hope I feel your H knows exactly how you feel about your marriage. H knows you want reconciliation of your marriage. I want you to the best of your ability to not discuss the relationship anymore. I know how hard this is, i still wanna do it daily, but i don't. I know my H knows I want him back. They know this. When we do this it puts us in a begging and grovelling light and it is not confident. Does that make sense? The OW are not doing this, they are not trying to convince our H's of the relationship. So they appear to be the confident one. Plus imagine this, the second they see our H, they are happy, cheerful, playful, confident, adventurous, they prob have a life and are doing things, do you see the image you are competing with.
Now when they see us, and of course we have every right, but what they see is sadness, seriousness, reasoning, convincing, crying, misery, guilt, so can you see why they may not want to be around much? Now by no means do I think you don't have that right because you do. Look what they have done. But i say this to women who are standing and fighting for their marriages so I say that to help you accomplish what it is you want. I assume everyone here wants there marriage so I will be just a bit tough and push you because I want you to have your marriages too.

So how many of you can implement that new image? Really, that's who you were before all of this anyways wasn't it? You just need to find yourself again. I know I used to say, I feel like a part of me has died how do I get back to that cheerful person I once was. WEll guess what I found helped GAL'ing, and that's why I push you all so much and i won't let up.

So Hope from today forward, NO more relationship talking ok my friend. And if you think that H and OW are talking about you then don't give em more ammunition. when you are ready to burst or you just gotta rant to him smile and RUNNNNN. LOL Then give me a jingle if you need to !

Negative emotions between you and H need to be reduced. Sweetly be unavailable again, can you do that? This is more to get you to a better place. May need to do this for a few weeks limiting contact in all ways to him.
One day at a time, today's goal, forgive you self and detach for a few weeks, be very unavailable.
Remember we're all here for you and support you 100%!