To everyone VENT AWAY! That's what this is here for and the great thing is as we vent, others can hear at times more clearly whats going on from the outside. There is NEVER any condemnation to anyone no matter how bad they think they blew it. We have all blown it so no worries. Transparency is welcome here!

Faith, Hmmm, its interesting that H wants to spend time, maybe you 180 and GAL'ing are making him wonder. I would accept the invitation and maybe deny the next because you GAL'ing. ITs kinda like not answering every call or text. Is he in an A right now? we don't necessarily want them to feel like they are LOSING you just that with or without them you are gonna start living life, does that make sense. That you are so living life that you are doing really neat GAL'ing things, not answering every call, running out as they are running in, but yet from time to time we answer the call or accept invitations.

If you go, which sounds fine, don't worry how to act. I used to do this and it made things worse for me cuz I used to just freak out,then my Pastor gave a message on Intimidation and god kinda moved on my heart and I realized I have been doing that my whole life and that enough is enough. When I started Plan A on Oct 3rd from the SAA book I told my self thats it , when I see him next I'm going to look him dead in the eyes and smile and be my cute lil normal self and I did it. And everytime I interact w/H now I purpose in my heart to look him in the eyes and just be my self. So how should you act? Relaxed, enjoy your kids, laugh and just BE YOURSELF.
Is he in the A right now?

Me-38 H-38
Married 18years
Daughter-17 & Son-9
Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08
Left home 5/08/08
Moved in with OW 08/01/08

The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family.
-- Lee Iacocca