So how do I do this different? Ex: Monday am he stops in. Has a bad attitude. He sticks around for about an hour. He leaves. I called him, asked why he stopped. He said no reason, just did. I said then you act p*ssed off to be here. He said no. I said "cheer up for God's sake" he said I will someday maybe. Monday afternoon he calls, for no reason. Just to talk. Tuesday am he stops in. Sat here for about an hour. Had me help him get the grain truck out to field so he could combine later. I got home from work he was in the field. He ran till about 6:30 then came here. Ate supper. Laid on the couch to nap before going to work. Didn't even ask this time, didn't say that's what he was doing. Just did it. Got up took shower. Asked if he could take a bowl of chili to work. Told us he'd see us later and went to work. Really didn't say more than 10 words while he was here.
While he is here. I am nice to him. Listen if he talks, if he doesn't I do my own thing. I don't offer anything anymore. When he goes, I walk the other way and don't say a thing.
If I tell him he can't come here anymore how is that DB'ing? At least when he's here he gets to see what he is missing. How do I do this different?
Red is stop. Green is go. Do you see how what you said that is quoted in green is a direct conflict with what you said that is quoted in red? How is calling him after he leaves and asking why he is pissed off the same as
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When he goes, I walk the other way and don't say a thing.
Next time you want to call him and accuse him of something go stand in front of a mirror and talk to yourself first. See how it sounds, and ask yourself how you would feel receiving a phone call like that.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
