Still waiting for my wife.

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Married 25 years,seperated last Sept.,wife filed for D in Nov.,she put D on hold and asked me to come back home in March,I have been home since March and there has been signs of healing,we get along great as friends and parents we sleep together in the same bed every night,but we do not touch or talk about the R.
She has said in the past that she doesn't have those kind of feelings for me and doesn't know if she will ever get them back,she has said if I'm not ok with the marriage the way it is that she can finilize the D.
I of couse do not want a D and never did,I don't think she really does either or she she would have gone through with it before.
There has never been any cheating or abuse,I had issues with being jealous and controlling and made her feeled smothered.
I have done allot of work on myself through prayer and reading and am not the same insecure man that I was,and I know she has seen the change but she still holds back and doesn't fully commit to me and our marriage.
It's a weird thing because we get along very well and she is kind to me but more as a friend and not a wife and lover,like she does wear a ring but it's one her grandmother left her and not our wedding ring,it's like it shows the world that she's married but still it's not the our ring.
I'm not sure what to do,I am crazy about her and I miss my lover.
I am being very patient and showing her love and understanding,she knows how I feel,I don't push R talks because I don't want to push her away.
I have put this marriage in God's hands and believe that he has a plan for us,we are both christians and go to church together every Sunday,I know she prays and believe she does want a loving happy whole marriage but I'm not sure what is going on in her that is keeping that from happening.