Stage 1.75

[Separated]

Thanks ITH!! Yes it was good that he wanted to see me. I, too am curious as to why he keeps asking if I'm working..lol.

I don't talk to his mom to often as there is a bit of a language barrier but I do talk to his little sister via text alot. I am going to call during the drive to job 2, hopefully she wil be home otherwise it has to wait until tomorrow.

I sure do like your optimistic outlook for all of us. I can't wait to get to at least stage 2 with my H!!! LoL I know that we are inching there.

[daisy282]

Hey Sep

Your patience amazes me! You have such a good attitude about all of this and I think that is going to make a HUGE difference in the way things come together for you in the next weeks and months. I have to agree with ITH, the winds of change are here! How exciting for all of us! Too bad we don't all live closer together so we could go out and celebrate like the DB godesses we are!!!

Keep it up darling you are doing so well!!!

[optimistwife]

I am pretty sure that if you are on your husband's mind, you are in his heart! Sorry that you didn't get out together this weekend, but hopefully you'll be able to get together soon.

I noticed that my H is happy doing things with me 1 on 1, but a bigger group of people that may (or may not) know about our sitch kinda scares him. I guess, because we don't talk about it like that.

I do think you are going to make it! I think we all are! I believe!

[Separated]

Thank you Daisy & OP, you don't understand how much your positive vibes help me to stay positive!!!! (You too ITH!!! )

I called MIL on the way to job #2 and she just was checking onme wanted to know how much I work if I'm ok, if I'm still in school, yada yada and to tell me that she misses me and loves me. Very sweet then talked to SIL (12) about what she wanted for Christmas and what she plannedon dressing up as for Halloween. It was a cute convo.

Nothing from H but a "vibe" that he was thinking about me today. Weird.

Oh well, I need to try to make myself fall asleep!! Talk to everyone in the morning!!

[daisy282]

So what is the next step Miss Sep?

Do you think you are going to try to invite him on another outing soon or are you going to wait and see if he will invite you out?

I think now would be a good time simply because the communication is open and he did not seem to have a negative reaction last time you asked him out. Doesn't that sound high school? Asked him out? Lol.

I don't know. Just my .02!

[Separated]

Hi Daisy!! No plans for right just waiting til I actually see him and see how he responds.

Yesterday I started to get a little restless and asked for a sign that I am sill suppose to be trying, I said if I at least get a text before the end of the night then I know it will be worth it.....and I got a text at about 8pm, something stupid..none the less from hm which means I was on his mind. So PMA is back and slump is over !!!

I have been reading a book that ITH suggested and it has fabulous principals on maintaining a PMA and helps me to realize how I allow negative thoughts into my head. It is a phenominal book and I hope I am strong enough to stick with the exercises.

[istherehope]

Hey Sep,

Love the fact that you got a text when you asked for a sign!

I am also very happy that you like the book. It is a challenge to do the exercises, especially without having a classroom setting, but I think very much worth it.

ITH

[istherehope]

Hey Sep,

Also just wondering which exercise you're working on at the moment?

ITH

[Separated]

I am currentlt trying to work on about 4 different exercise at the same time. I am trying to envision my buddy, watch my chatter, learn how to concentrate on one thing only without multitasking and I am going to eat my lunch in silence.

I did the task where I had to write my models and try to change one of them last week when I received the book and then you have to spend a week acting 'as-if' your model is the opposite. I choose that I am not noticed for the work I can do and started acting as though I am appreciated and keeping in my head that they do know my abilities and this week so far I have been told that the Administrator is fighting to get my old title back and today I helped someone in the office and they ran up and told the Administrator how helpful I was and she personally came down to thank me for helping out.

P.S. There are so many times that I am reading and kinda reach an epiphany about what I am reading and do the "OMG that is so me"!!

[istherehope]

Hey Sep,

Wow-4 exercises at once! I guess with us it was good having the classroom setting. It was usually one exercise per week, though there were loads of in-class things to do as well.

Don't you love the "as-if" models? You've reminded me that I need to do this too.

Oh the concentrating on 1 thing at a time was the hardest for me, and I never really got it down. Professor Rao always said that if you were able to completely master the present moment exercise, you wouldn't need the book or the class!

The mental chatter thing was absolutely mindblowing to me, and really fits in well with the Secret I think!

Good luck with it all!
ITH