*WTF is going on? He is sleeping downstairs by choice, he is the one who said last week he wanted a D and he has said nothing about NOT wanting a D....
Kim did the same for months. She played nice to make things easier for her.
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*He DID mention the night I went to the lawyer (last Wed.) that if he had to get the house on his own he may have to live in our current house a while longer...is that what he is doing?
yes, I think so. I basically did the same for months so I could get my place ready and spend as much time as possible with Caleigh...Please remember BBJ I was an LBS in the same house with a WAW..then the roles reversed and I basically went WAH on her. It's not what I wanted but it is what it is.
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Last night after I got home I sat on the couch to relax before bed (was at school from 8 am to 9 pm b/c of conferences). H sat on the other couch, talked to me, chit chatted, etc. like things were fine. No problem being my "friend", just no touching or ILY (I haven't done EITHER myself since the night he said 'I hate you', even though he says he didn't mean that I haven't touched him since)
I am just getting so frustrated. I KNOW from prior experience that if I force the issue and start any kind of R talk, he will jump into his "Yes, we are getting a D, this is just how it is, but I want to be friend for the kids" or some such crap.
However, this "being friends, living in the same house" thing is driving me crazy. It is like having your house full of yummy food on a diet. What is the point of having it there all the time if you can't touch it? Not the best example but I hope you get what I mean. Hanging out joking with H will only lead to me having expectations/hopes, I know myself well enough to admit that. And I don't want to have expectations/hopes b/c I know I will be disappointed that much more when he suddenly decides it is time, and moves out
that's why I think you just need to go ahead, let go , detach. Even if he is in the same house. Act 'as if" you're ok with him being there and spending time with the kids and playing house. As long as he observes the boundaries in place, ie. OW...hell, take a break, let him clean the frinkin house for a while..
