My 29 year old wife going through MLC, this sucks

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Good morning all. Sorry I was absent for a day. I took the day off of work and W is home too. I only post at work so she can't sniff around and find out. I know whe wouldn't understand why I need this board.

Trapt, I was sorry to read what happened with your W. Don't worry about what you think you said or did wrong. Just get back on track, get a hold of your emotions and turn back into that rock. When you finally do get together with her for her birthday, be nice as pie and smile and be happy. Not only for you but for your kids who probably are really looking forward to giving mom a fun birthday. My birthday was last week and my W did that for me with my kids and it was nice.

As for my last few days, they have been okay. I thought for sure that monday was going to be terrible with the reversal and all but when I got home from work W actually was being quite pleasant. She went out to run some errands and the newest baby step is that she has been checking in with me to let me know if she is running late or going someplace else. It is a small change, but one for the positive. Then I was off yesterday and I took our S to his play class and she ran some more errands while D was at school. Then she called and said why don't we meet for lunch. So I took S and she had D and we had a nice lunch. Later we were home for the afternoon and we had a chance to talk a little and catch up. All nice. At night she went and worked out ant then get this....for the first time in weeks she had no plans to disappear and get out of the house. She even offered for us to catch up on some of our DVR'd shows we watch. This is another small baby step I think.

But you will all be proud because I then told her that I had to run a couple of errands and return a shirt. I really didn't have to but I wanted her to wait for me to get on with the shows. So I went out and took my time, got a coffee and relaxed. Then when I came home we watched a couple shows and went to bed. She is still making a point to say goodnight and be friendly and i like that.

The hard part is beleiving that giving her this space is what she needs. I worry that because other than her being in the guest room everything is status quo. I still take care of everything financially and do things like make dinner and such when I can. Part of me of course wants to teach her a lesson about what life alone or apart would really be like, since she has never lived on her own.

But things have been okay for a week now except for that quick mood on Sunday night. So why rock the boat, I need to remember these time when things turn to crap over the weekend.

I hope you are all doing well and thanks for listening again.