Upside and Cagzmom Thank you..you are both right on I need to detach more and wait till it passes I think sometimes the pain creates more freedom in letting go b/c today i feel i know I have to let H go I have to pursue D and move on or H will keep me dangling infinitely just to be a safety net I dreamt I was with a new man..we were happy in dream H in dream too, but we were ont together All things are possible.. peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow