God grant me the patience and the strength...8

[theotherhalf]

You've been given TONS of ammo...TONS of suggestions. You are just choosing to do the same thing you have always done.

So how do I do this different? Ex:
Monday am he stops in. Has a bad attitude. He sticks around for about an hour. He leaves. I called him, asked why he stopped. He said no reason, just did. I said then you act p*ssed off to be here. He said no. I said "cheer up for God's sake" he said I will someday maybe. Monday afternoon he calls, for no reason. Just to talk.
Tuesday am he stops in. Sat here for about an hour. Had me help him get the grain truck out to field so he could combine later. I got home from work he was in the field. He ran till about 6:30 then came here. Ate supper. Laid on the couch to nap before going to work. Didn't even ask this time, didn't say that's what he was doing. Just did it. Got up took shower. Asked if he could take a bowl of chili to work. Told us he'd see us later and went to work. Really didn't say more than 10 words while he was here.

While he is here. I am nice to him. Listen if he talks, if he doesn't I do my own thing. I don't offer anything anymore. When he goes, I walk the other way and don't say a thing.

If I tell him he can't come here anymore how is that DB'ing? At least when he's here he gets to see what he is missing. How do I do this different?