Daisy, I do need a GAL plan for the next 3 days! Today I am working from home as someone is coming to look at our broken heater (cold house...). I plan to do some exercise this morning, as I've been slacking in this area since I've been back. This should help my PMA. Other than that today will probably just catch up on work, and maybe watch some silly shows that H would not want to watch with me.
Work pretty much keeps me out of the house from 8-7, so tomorrow probably nothing big, but Friday (the day H gets home), I am going to try to make plans to go to drinks so that I don't come home before 10 PM or so. I may leave some candy here for H so that he can entertain the Trick or Treaters (we get them in Ireland too), but I like dressing up and H doesn't (has been a fight on several occasions), so I think I'll take advantage of the opportunity to both enjoy myself and show him that I can do these things without him.
Also, yes the business-type calls do make me feel like I'm part of a team again. In this case I especially liked it because it wasn't just about the budget or the house, but about something more frivolous that really didn't need to be run by me. It also showed me that he remembered our weekend plans. I thought he might try to get out of them...
Opt--I'll be talking to Jody early this afternoon, so by the time the boards are active again, I may have an update posted. I agree with you that the words don't always match the actions. While I would be more than happy to continue business as usual for awhile with my H without any serious conversation, he always seems to want these conversations. So I guess what I need to figure out is whether it is better for me to deflect them, to go along with them, or to raise them myself. One thought I have on this weekend is that if we go out to dinner or something, or to drinks maybe, I can test the waters with some plans for Christmas. I won't do this directly, but may try to steer the conversation toward a few places that I know H has been wanting to go, and see whether somehow he might make the connection himself...obviously it depends on how the night is going, but what's clear right now is that plans need to come from him, even if I have an influence on them. Anyway, no worries on me pushing H, I will definitely not do this. I think that one major backslide was more than enough, and I don't think we're solid enough yet for me to talk about the things I want...
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
