I agree- you gotta follow your heart on this one- if you're done, that's ok it doesn't make you a bad person. Making changes and realizing how the future will be better shows you've really put a lot into this, and that makes you a decent person. You can always separate legally first and then get the D later. Many people on these boards are in that sitch...
DBer since 2003 D - 3/24/09 GAL and DBing for myself