You're not hijacking!! Actually... you are... but that's totally OK!!! LOL
Anyways, my IL's are the excat opposite of yours. They never seemed to care for us (my W and I) too much. Like I said earlier, my SIL the youngest has always been the favorite. I actually see a small, small part of the reason my W and I are in this sitch as their fault! They have NEVER ever watched our boys for us, not even a couple of hours to go watch a movie or something, let alone overnight, so my W and I could go on a short trip together!! My W and I have been on one vacation together (w/o kids) since the boys were born, ONE!! My parents live overseas and they came over here and stayed in our house with the kids so that we could have some time alone.... And her parents live 40min from here!
So I never felt that close to them. NOW, they tell me that they don't understand their own daughter and that they think I am a great husband and father, they don't see anything wrong with me and she should just "snap" out of it, etc... I have told them some things that I know I have done wrong or could have done better, but their reaction to that is one of: we all have our character flaws but that's no reason to completely end the R.
So you see? Sounds completely the opposite! But I am convinced of the advice given here time and time again: the IL's better stay out of it, whoever's side they say they are on!
Had to laugh, when you said: WHEN we get back together, not IF. That is what I say to myself all the time: WHEN we get back together, we will have a R that will be based on such a profound understanding of each other (compared to before all of this) it's TOTALLY worth it!
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